THE AVOIDANT COMMUNICATOR…
If you tend to shut down, withdraw, or feel overwhelmed when conversations get emotional or conflict arises, you’re not “bad at communicating” — you’re protecting yourself in the best way you learned how. We’ll explore this avoidant communication style with curiosity, not criticism.
Understanding Your Pattern
We start by getting clear on what avoidance looks like for you. Maybe you go quiet, disconnect, change the subject, or feel your mind go blank. Together, we identify the internal signals, sensations, and beliefs that show up in those moments so you can understand why your body reacts this way.
Exploring Your History & Emotional Blueprint
Avoidant communication rarely begins in adulthood. In our early sessions, we explore the experiences, family dynamics, and unspoken rules you grew up with around emotions, conflict, and needs. This helps us understand the protective patterns your nervous system built long before your adult relationships.
Nervous System Support & Somatic Tools
Avoidant responses aren’t just mental, they’re physical. You might experience shutdown, numbness, or a need to escape. We use gentle somatic techniques to support regulation, helping you stay present without feeling flooded or pressured. You’ll learn how to notice early cues and create more space to respond.
Building Practical Skills
Once your system feels safer, we bring in clear, realistic communication tools that won’t overwhelm you. This includes structured ways to express needs, ways to set boundaries without withdrawing, and strategies to stay engaged in harder conversations — at a pace that feels doable.
Growing Your Capacity for Connection
Over time, you develop a stronger internal sense of safety. This means you can show up more fully in your relationships, speak to what you feel, and stay connected even when emotions rise. You don’t have to become a different person — you’re simply learning to relate in a way that feels more grounded, intentional, and supported.